Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies
Tara Schuster
21 min
9 Key Points
4.8 RateWhat's inside?
Discover self-care rituals and practical advice to improve your life, shared by someone who has walked the path and emerged stronger.
You'll learn
1. Easy self-care and self-love tips2. Beating self-doubt and boosting confidence3. Handling anxiety and depression like a pro4. The art of saying no and setting limits5. Crafting a daily routine that rocks6. Personal growth hacks for a better you.Key points
01Don't fake being okay when you're not, it's bad for your mental health
Let's get real here. You know that saying, "Fake it till you make it"? Well, it's a load of bull. Tara Schuster, in her no-nonsense, tell-it-like-it-is style, says it loud and clear: "Pretending you are okay when you are not will only break you more." And boy, is she right. Think about it this way. Let's say you've got a nasty cut on your arm. You wouldn't just slap a band-aid on it and call it a day, right? No, you'd clean it, disinfect it, and dress it properly. Why? Because ignoring it would only make things worse. It's the same with your feelings. If you're hurting inside, pretending everything's peachy isn't going to help. In fact, it's just going to make things worse. Tara's been there, done that. She used to be the queen of pretending. Even when she was falling apart inside, she'd put on a brave face and act like everything was hunky-dory. But guess what? It didn't work. All it did was pile on more pain and suffering because she wasn't dealing with the real issue. Take this one time at work. She was stressed out of her mind, but instead of admitting it and seeking help, she just kept on pretending everything was fine. And you know what happened? She had a breakdown. If she'd just faced her stress head-on, she could've avoided the whole mess. So, what's the moral of the story? Don't ignore your feelings. Don't pretend everything's okay when it's not. It's not a sign of weakness to admit you're struggling. In fact, it's the first step towards healing. Face your feelings, seek help if you need it, and take steps to get better. It's not easy, but it's worth it. Trust Tara, she's been there.
02Start healing by dealing with your past issues
Imagine your life as a road trip. Every experience you've had, every choice you've made, is like a pebble you've picked up along the way. Some pebbles are light and smooth, like the good times and happy memories. Others are rough, heavy, and sharp, like the bad times, regrets, and stuff you've never really dealt with. Over time, these pebbles can weigh you down, making your journey tougher. The first step to lighten your load is to take a good look at each pebble, especially the heavy ones. This means going back to your past experiences, feeling the emotions tied to them, and understanding how they've shaped you. It's about facing your past, no matter how much it hurts or how uncomfortable it makes you. Let's say you had a rough childhood that left you feeling like you're not good enough. You need to face this issue head-on. This could mean feeling the pain, understanding how it's messed with how you see yourself, and then working towards healing and self-love. Working out your past isn't about focusing on the bad stuff or feeling sorry for yourself. It's about getting to know yourself better, understanding your reactions, and your feelings. It's about figuring out what's really causing your problems and then doing something about it. Once you've figured out and understood your past issues, the next step is to do something about it. This could mean getting professional help, like therapy or counseling, or it could mean doing things for yourself like meditating, writing in a journal, or saying positive things to yourself. The important thing is to take real steps towards fixing your issues, not just ignoring them or brushing them aside. In a nutshell, working out your past is about facing and understanding your past experiences, feeling the emotions tied to them, and then doing something about it. It's tough, but it's a necessary step for anyone looking to make their life better and grow as a person.
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03Journaling can help you understand yourself better
04Keep your journal updated to remember important stuff
05Use writing prompts when you're too tired to journal
06Treat yourself well to boost your confidence
07Hang out with people who inspire and support you
08Don't blame yourself for things you can't control
09Conclusion
About Tara Schuster
Tara Schuster is an accomplished author, playwright, and accomplished entertainment executive at Comedy Central. Known for her candid and humorous approach, she shares her journey of self-care and personal development, offering practical advice and life lessons. She's a graduate of Brown University with a degree in playwriting.
