He Comes Next
Ian Kerner
19 min
8 Key Points
4.6 RateWhat's inside?
Explore the secrets to satisfying your man with this comprehensive guide, offering insights into male psychology and practical tips for enhancing intimacy.
You'll learn
1. Getting inside a guy's sexual mind2. Tips to boost his pleasure3. Talking about what you want in bed4. Tackling common bedroom problems5. Making your sex life even better6. Why men's sexual health matters.Key points
01Sex isn't just about the physical stuff, it's a mind game too
Let's talk about sex. But not just the physical side of things, we're going to delve into the psychological side too. Because, believe it or not, sex isn't just about the physical sensations, it's also about the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that come into play. First, let's get physical. The male sexual organ, or the penis, has several sensitive spots. The most sensitive is the glans, the soft bulb at the tip. It's super sensitive to touch and is often the quickest way to get a man to orgasm, especially if he's been masturbating regularly. Further down the shaft, there are three muscle bindings that fill with blood during arousal and keep it there until orgasm. This area is a big deal for guys as it can vary in size and width. But sex isn't just about these physical sensations. It's also about a man's mental state. For instance, many guys are reluctant to let their partners touch areas beyond the penis, like the scrotum or the anus. It's not that these areas aren't pleasurable - actually, the male G-spot is about three inches inside the rectum - it's more about psychological reasons. Guys are often taught by society to always be in control, and letting their partners touch these areas can make them feel vulnerable and out of control. This mental side of sex is explored in more detail. The complexities of the male genitalia, how to please a man, and why you might struggle to please him despite your best efforts are all discussed. The mental aspects of sex are also explained, showing how to understand and navigate a man's mental state during sex to increase pleasure. So, in a nutshell, sex isn't just a physical act, it's also a deeply psychological one. It's not just about the physical sensations of the sexual organs, but also the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of the people involved. Understanding this can help boost sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
02We need to talk more about the role of desire in good sex
Let's talk about something that often gets swept under the rug in relationships: desire. It's a biggie, and ignoring it can lead to all sorts of problems, like dissatisfaction, frustration, and even breakups. You see, in many relationships, especially those where the bedroom action has cooled off, desire is often taken for granted. One partner might get antsy, looking for medical fixes for physical issues like erectile dysfunction. But the real issue might not be physical at all. It could be a simple lack of desire. This misunderstanding and neglect of desire are big reasons why so many couples split up. Remember, the emotional spark in a relationship might not always be there, but it can be reignited at any time with some good old-fashioned communication and effort. So, how do you address this? Start by exploring your partner's sexual fantasies. These can give you a peek into what gets your partner's motor running and can help bring back that spark of desire. But it's not just about knowing what turns your partner on. You also need to be sensitive to their insecurities. If your partner feels insecure or uncomfortable, they might pull away even more, leading to even less bedroom action. For instance, your partner might be worried about his sexual performance, like premature ejaculation or the ability to climax. These worries can seriously affect his desire and arousal. To help ease these worries, introduce your partner to different forms of pleasure that go beyond just the act of ejaculation. This could mean trying out different sexual activities or focusing on the emotional connection between you two. In a nutshell, understanding and addressing desire in a sexual relationship is key to keeping things healthy and satisfying. It involves open communication, being sensitive to your partner's insecurities, and being open to exploring new ways of pleasure. By doing this, you can reignite the flame of desire and improve the overall quality of your sexual relationship.
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03To keep sex fun, try mixing things up a bit
04Getting a bit naughty in foreplay can lead to loads of fun
05There's a deep link between the heart and the penis, believe it or not
06To make sex better, everyone needs to get involved
07There are loads of tricks to make sex more enjoyable
08Conclusion
About Ian Kerner
Ian Kerner is a renowned American sex counselor and author, specializing in sexual health, sex therapy, and relationship issues. He holds a doctoral degree in clinical sexology and is a licensed marriage and family therapist, frequently contributing to CNN and the Today Show as a sex and relationship expert.
