Rich as F*ck

01Why You Are Pushing Money Away

Money is not a cold, lifeless piece of paper; it is an active, dynamic relationship that responds directly to how you treat it. We frequently treat our finances with a level of disrespect, avoidance, and outright hostility that we would never accept in our human relationships. Have you ever caught yourself saying things like, "I am always broke," or "Money is the root of all evil," or perhaps avoiding looking at your bank account because it induces a feeling of sheer panic? These behaviors are incredibly common, but they are also the exact mechanisms keeping you trapped in a cycle of financial struggle. To understand the core philosophy Amanda Frances presents, we must first personify wealth. Treat money as if it were a person you are currently dating. How are you speaking to this partner? Are you constantly complaining about them behind their back? Are you ignoring their calls, refusing to look at the bank statements they send you? Are you telling everyone around you that this partner is difficult to acquire, hard to keep, and bound to leave you eventually? If you treated a romantic partner this way, they would pack their bags and walk out the door immediately. Money operates on the exact same energetic wavelength. When you project fear, resentment, or avoidance onto your finances, you are actively pushing wealth away from your life. The first step to transforming your financial reality is to radically alter the way you speak about, think about, and interact with money. This requires a conscious, daily effort to catch your negative financial self-talk and flip the script. Instead of bonding with friends over how expensive life is or how hard it is to make ends meet, choose to step out of the scarcity narrative. You do not have to participate in the collective obsession with lack. When a bill arrives, instead of feeling a heavy dread in your chest, try shifting your perspective to one of gratitude. A bill is simply proof that someone trusted you enough to provide a service—like electricity, internet, or housing—before you even paid for it. It is evidence of the abundance that is already circulating in your life. Here are a few powerful ways to start repairing your relationship with money today: Stop using self-deprecating financial language: Erase phrases like "I cannot afford that" from your vocabulary. Instead, use empowering language such as "I am choosing to allocate my resources elsewhere right now," or "How can I effortlessly create the wealth to purchase this?" Date your money: Set aside time each week to sit down with your finances in a positive, relaxed environment. Pour yourself a nice cup of coffee or a glass of wine, play some pleasant music, and look at your accounts. Send love to the money that is there, no matter how small the amount. Celebrate every single penny: When you find a coin on the street, or get a tiny discount at the grocery store, do not dismiss it. Celebrate it as proof that money is constantly flowing toward you. Many people harbor a subconscious belief that wanting money is somehow greedy, unspiritual, or morally wrong. We are taught to be humble, and society often equates humility with poverty. But let us dismantle that right now. Having money does not make you a bad person; it simply amplifies who you already are. If you are a kind, generous, and loving human being, having millions of dollars will only allow you to spread that kindness, generosity, and love on a much grander scale. You can fund charities, support your family, create jobs, and relieve the suffering of others. Money is a tool for magnificent good, but it can only come to you if you open your arms and welcome it without guilt. Consider the physical sensation you get when you think about wealth. Does your stomach tighten? Do your shoulders tense up? Your body is revealing your hidden blocks. The goal is to reach a state where thinking about money feels light, joyful, and expansive. You want to feel a sense of eager anticipation, knowing that financial support is always available to you. By changing your internal dialogue and treating money with respect, gratitude, and joy, you send a clear signal to the universe that you are ready for a serious, committed, and highly rewarding relationship with wealth. As we begin to heal this relationship, we inevitably bump into the origins of our toxic financial habits. We do not develop a fear of money in a vacuum. These beliefs are handed down to us, often implicitly, by the environments we grew up in. To permanently change our financial trajectory, we must look backward to understand exactly whose beliefs we are currently playing out in our adult lives.